Core values are the rudders used to steer my ship across the vast ocean of life. These values help shape my decisions. You can go back and read about my other core values here.
Impermanence is a Core Value that I am still working on developing. Like everyone, I spend a lot of time ruminating on past mistakes. Like everyone I get upset when something changes suddenly. Like everyone I worry about the future outcomes. But I picked Impermanence as a Core Value because I want to get better at just enjoying the life I’m living. Value words invoke different meanings to different people. So when making your own value words it is important to define them for yourself. I define Impermanence in two parts.
Impermanence – appreciate the now, the cup is already broken
The first part, “appreciate the now”, was the original definition I came up with. Sometimes we get so caught up in just getting through the day, we don’t stop to really enjoy the moment. We are too busy rushing from place to place to really enjoy the journey. Impermanence comes from a Buddhist concept that the world is constantly changing, and only by accepting the fluidity of the universe and staying focused on the current moment can a person find happiness. In Buddhism, they believe that clinging to the past or worry about the future are two edges of the coin that prevents people from living contently in the present.
The second part of my definition is different. I picked Impermanence as my Core Value and the next day I dropped and broke my favorite cup. It was like the universe wanted me to understand the full implication of my choice. Impermanence isn’t just about accepting that things are constantly changing. It is also about not wasting the time you have. “The cup is already broken” or in another way accept that nothing will remain the same and enjoy life while you have the option. Use the fine china, use the nice soaps, drink the nice wine. Appreciate the things you own, but also accept that they are gone when they break and don’t dwell. Just be thankful that you got to enjoy them for a time.